oh yeah. this is reblogged from chaw's blogspot.

Almost like a relationship, but not quite. It is a phase where the people involved are more than friends, but not quite lovers. Puwedeng may verbal agreement, puwedeng wala. One or both of you may have admitted your feelings, possible din na hindi. You just let your gestures do the talking for you.
Walang pormal na ligawan na nangyari. Hindi kayo. Pero sa kilos niyo, sa mga sinasabi niyo, parang kayo, pero hindi. This kind of “relationship” can happen at different stages for different reasons. It can happen after a break-up. You still love each other, and you want to be with each other but you broke up for a reason. And for reasons that you alone know, ayaw niyo na muna magkabalikan. It can also happen before a relationship, iyong pareho kayong nakikiramdam.
Possible din na ayaw niyo munang mag- seryoso kaya kunwa-kunwarian lang muna. Testing lang. (tama ba un?!)
Puwede ring hindi puwedeng maging kayo kasi isa sa inyo may ka-relasyon na.Kaya habang hindi pa siya nakikipag-break doon sa girl, wala muna kayong relasyon para nga naman hindi siya nangangaliwa kasi “hindi naman kayo.”
This pseudo-relationship stage, for a time, can be fun. Lalo na kung naghahanap ka lang naman ng kalaro.
Pero huwag ka lang mag-eexpect na may patutunguhan kayo kasi wala talagang kasiguraduhan. So bakit ang daming nagse-settle sa ganitong set-up ganoong hindi naman sigurado kung may patutunguhan? Iba’t ibang dahilan..
Puwedeng for fun lang.Puwedeng “buti na iyan kesa wala”. Meaning, habang wala pa yong the real thing, doon muna sa kunwa-kunwarian. For those who are not in a serious relationship, they would think that pseudo-relationship is better than no relationship at all.
It would be fun, if all you’re after is that “kilig” feeling. But then I learned that although it was only a pseudo-relationship, the emotions were real. And usually, in this kind of set up, merong malulugi. Yung nainlove sa taong taken na.

Una, you can’t ask him to commit. Since it’s not really a relationship, you can’t demand commitment from your partner.
Ano ba kayo? You will always be uncertain about your role in his life. You can’t expect him to be always there with you. And if you feel jealous of the other girls, you just have to keep it to yourself. Ano ka ba niya para magselos?
Pangalawa, what if you fall deeply in love with him? You can’t be sure if he feels the same way.Baka nag-a-assume ka lang na mahal ka rin niya. Even if you are dying to tell him you love him, you can’t. Because you’re not sure if he will like it. Baka mapahiya ka lang.
This stage will always make you wonder where you are in the relationship. Or if there is a relationship at all.
Pangatlo, what if you become attached too much? What if you have invested all your emotions and this man hasn’t? What if you remain faithful to him, not entertaining other boys, only to find out that he is seeing other girls?
Isa pang downside ng pseudo- relationships, it is fleeting.
When a disagreement sets in, or when one of you gets cold, then that would be the end of it.
Unlike in a serious relationship, hindi mo alam kung saan ka lulugar sa isang pseudo-relationship.
Wala kang pinanghahawakan.
Kasi sa pseudo-relationship, there is no “us” meron lang “you and me”.

oh yeah. this is long. deal with it. )

but i agree with this kind of relationship. now i know what i call those relatiionships i’ve been through. although i don’t fully agree with the part of “fun” thingy, i reallized that, no matter how you deny or keep on telling yourself that the “love” is real, unless it is real relationship, not a false one, you can never prove that love to be real. geez. i mean, why on earth would you tell someone you love him/her for reals if you really are not ready to be serious with him. well anyways. idk. it just bugs me to post this. haha. i feel so natamaan.. it’s like my life is full of these stuffs. kase never p nman akong nagenter into a formal relationship to begin with. and it’s like no matter how i tried to pull things and keep the relationship strong or watever, it just doesn’t work. may be this is a factor.

and yeah, eto rin ung tinatawag nating MU. na lagi nating sinasabi na better. well, for me i really say that. na for me this is better kase i am still not ready to do this, do that. pero ndi eh. maliii. kase watever happens, may nasasaktan. right? whether it is us, or the person we say we love, it just isn't right. we are fooling everyone. ourselves, the partners, and the people around us who believes int he presence of that so-called love between the two of you.

BOTTOMLINE: Don't enter into Pseudorelationships. Love if you want to. But don't fool anyone with entering into that so-called MU thingy. It is just between two things: NO relationship or WITH relationship. NOTHING IN BETWEEN

1 comment May 19, 2009